As mental health therapists, we have a wealth of knowledge on mental health issues and are trained to be “problem solvers.” But with a problem-solving mindset, it’s easy to fall into the trap of prematurely planning. Don’t get me wrong, problem-solving has its place and time, but planning within the first 25 minutes of an…
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How I Deal With Being Triggered By Clients in Therapy.
I intentionally prepare myself mentally, spiritually, and physically before and after sessions for unexpected triggers. How do I do this? I create distance between myself and my clients. I remind myself that it’s okay to have overlapping experiences of trauma and hurt. And as two unique individuals, we have different skillsets, protective factors, and resources…
I Don’t Get It? Why Is Small Talk Difficult For Me?
There are two main reasons folks might find small talk difficult. You’re a guarded person. Your shyness is at play. You’re a naturally reserved, nervous, or timid person. Been there, done that! You had experiences with others that have made you feel more comfortable being selective/guarded. It would help if you had more time. More…
Is Maladaptive Daydreaming a Problem? [A Mental Health Provider’s Thoughts]
Should I See a Therapist for my Maladaptive Daydreaming? It depends. Maladaptive Daydreaming doesn’t fit criteria for any diagnosable mental disorders within the DSM 5. Because of this, only you can decide if seeking professional help is necessary. An indicator that you should seek help is if it interferes with living and leading a productive…
Mental Health Storytime: My Grocery Shopping Anxiety Snuck Up on Me Again
On weekends I typically prepare for the week ahead by grocery shopping. There is nothing like intentionally preparing for the week ahead. It seems reasonable enough, but here’s the deal, I hate going grocery shopping. And will put off shopping for as long as possible. I’ll do everything else but head out to the grocery…
A Winning Therapeutic Combo: Heart-set and Mindset
As a mental health practitioner and lifestyle coach, I’ve often found that in order to build a successful partnership with my clients, I need to embody a particular mindset and heart-set. What do I mean by mindset and heart-set? I’m referring to a state of being. Mindset is an attitude. Heartset is an acknowledgment. I’ve seen the…
Treat Yourself to 13 Mental Health Memes
Laughter is a great pick-me-up and an even better stress reliever. Treat yourself to these thirteen memes and indulge in the benefits of a little laughter and humor.
Yes, Your Relationship is Toxic. And Here’s Why…
Could this relationship be toxic? We’ve all had that gnawing feeling about a friendship, a colleague, or a lover. But often, we doubt our feelings. I’m a big proponent of intuition and all things gut feelings. Why? Because we have a knowing, but maybe the language isn’t there. So what exactly is a toxic relationship?…
To Be or Not To Be: Is It Ambivalence OR Resistance?
What is preventing your client from making the necessary change? Is it their ambivalence OR are they resistant? This isn’t an easy question to answer, and it’s worth deep exploration. First, let’s ensure we are on the same page by defining ambivalence and resistance. Ambivalence: [noun] uncertainty or fluctuation, primarily when caused by an inability…
5 Easy Ways to Pamper Yourself on a Budget
Are you looking to revamp your self-care routine in a budget-friendly way? Below are five inexpensive and easy ways you can pamper yourself on a budget. Get more rest. A good night’s rest can help you to have more energy and focus during the day. Resting your mind and body is an essential foundational step. Create…